The way I intend it to be when the time comes..

And whoever said love is about living two souls as one, is partly wrong.

Harsh I know! But that’s what I really think.

I believe that love is about accepting the other, because no one is perfect. So when you fall in love, you subconsciously decide that the person’s imperfections are acceptable, and you decide to overlook them. It’s a choice and a decision you make.

And then you get too involved in a relation, you start doing all your stuff together, you start liking the same exact things maybe just to please each other, you start hating the things he hate and vice versa.  You gradually change into being two close-to-identical characters.

And after a while, it gets boring, the curve starts going down, and suddenly the imperfections are not acceptable anymore. It’s like love was covering up your eyes, and now the love is gradually fading.

And this all started when you two started merging your lives into one life.

The way I see it, love is about sharing your TWO INDEPENDENT lives together. Each and every one does different stuff and at the end of the day you share your stories. You fight over something only one of you likes, so someone makes a compromise and accepts that certain thing.

Love is about being independent but still somehow attached. And it’s all about the level of attachment..

Seek the balance, and you shall be happy (:

With all my best wishes to all the couples out there 🙂
 
 
 
 
N.B: yesterday, while I was asleep, the blog reached it’s 2000th view thanks to all the continuous readers 🙂
I couldn’t be any more grateful (:
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6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Marwa Emam
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 12:58:08

    EXACTLY! : )

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  2. Noha Ahmed
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 16:20:07

    (:

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  3. Ahmed Nabih
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 21:16:25

    You almost got me up there =D Noha ya oz3a…you have a marvelous life lying ahead of you =) you only need to keep living it =D

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  4. Noha Ahmed
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 21:39:47

    HAHAHAHAHA =D!!

    ashkoraaak ya nabiiiih!! (A)
    wallahi dyman bt7rgeny keda 😀

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  5. Ahmed Nabih
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 22:38:00

    I totally agree about the getting boring phase, couples mostly manage to merge their lives too much that both know what will the other one do, say or react. It’s the power to influence someone else and accept their influence to change you into someone they pride in. It gets boring because at some point, there’s nothing new for both of them to anticipate. The “challenge” is over.
    Your perspective of being two individual lives living together is a clear evidence that when you get into a relationship, you won’t become a shadow to your partner, you’ll have your own life, doing your own stuff, being successful in things you’re good at. You won’t settle with being the passive partner =) and this will spice up your future life en sha2 Allah, rabbena yekremek =D

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  6. Noha Ahmed
    Nov 02, 2011 @ 22:48:56

    AIWA AIWA YA LAHWYYY!
    exactly what I had in mind regarding the first part!!
    the “CHALLENGE” is over. the thrill to know more is over. You already know everything now, w kol 7aga is expected. it becomes boring!
    HOWA DAH! =D

    howa definitely i wont settle for being the passive partner, bas I will definitely make sure eny a keep my life separate from his, that the way I intend it to be when the time comes (:

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